एक वो होली होती थी गली के आशिकों वाली

 

आजकल की होली भी कोई होली है, एक होली मिलन का गेट टूगेदर होता है , टीका लगाया जाता  है, डीजे वाले बाबू गाना बजाते हैं ” मैं तो तंदूरी मुर्गी हूँ यार , गटका ले ज़रा अल्कोहल से” और सब अंग्रेजी में “Happy Holi” कह कर happy हो जाते हैं। images (1)

ये भी कोई होली हुई भला, होली तो होती थी हमारे ज़माने में हमारे पांडेपुर में। एकदम तन तन होली और होली तो खेलते हैं मोहल्ले के लौंडे, लफूट आशिक जो अपनी अपनी औकात के और उस लफूटाई वाले गैंग में अपनी हैसियत के हिसाब से अपनी आइटम और दूसरों की भाभीजी चुन लेते हैं ।वैसे ये पूरा मामला घोर understanding वाला और बाउसूल होता है  ।भाभी को पूरी इज्ज़त दी जाती है और मज़ाल है कि दूसरे मौहल्ले का कोई छोरा भाभीजी पर नज़र भी लगा दे।

आते हैं उस होली पर, आशिकों वाली होली पर. जब रंग से लाल, नीले पीले हुए लड़के, ग्रीज़ पोते सब एक से नज़र आते थे।पर अपनी वाली के घर भी जाना था, उसे रंग लगाने। होली का यही फायदा है कि उसके पापा जो वैसे तो चौधरी बने फिरते हैं आज किसी को रोक न पायेंगे क्यूंकि आज तो “बुरा न मानो होली है “। पिछली बार उसने जो ख़त भिजवाया था मोहल्ले के आशिकों के पोस्टमैन “बबलू” से , उसमें कहा था कि होली के दिन रंग लगाओ तब जाकर  हम मानें कि मोहब्बत सच्ची है तुम्हारी।

एक तो मोहब्बत पर चैलेंज उस पर उसका “तब जाकर हम जानें” वाला अंदाज़, होली पर रंग लगाना तो था ही।अब चाहे इसके लिये चौधरी पापा से कुटाई ही क्यूँ न हो जाये। हाँ तो ऐसी होती थी भाई पांडेपुर की होली.चेहरे को पूरा ढँक कर हम पहुंचे  थे होली मिलन के लिये उनके घर।पापा जी के चरण स्पर्श किया और विश किया ” हैप्पी होली अंकल जी “।

पापा जी – आओ आओ बच्चों (सोचते हुये कि ये किसके बच्चे हैं) ……….आवाज़ लगते हुये ” अरे कुछ नाश्ता वाश्ता ले कर आओ “।

और सीन में एंट्री होती है होली की हीरोइन ,हमारी हीरोइन की…………….और बैकग्राउंड में ” जोगी जी प्रेम का रोग लगा हमको, अब इसकी दवा कोई हो तो कहो ” गाना बजने लगता है।

हाथ में ट्रे लेकर हमारी हीरोइन आती है , मुस्कराहट को छिपाते हुए।

हम सब ” हैप्पी होली आपको ” , टीका लगते हुये .हम सभी बारी बारी से टीका लगते हैं मैडम को और चौधरी साहेब कुछ नहीं कह पाते क्यूंकि आज तो “बुरा न मानो, होली है “।

इस रंग लगाने का हैंगओवर दो दिन तक नहीं जाता तब भी जब भांग उतर जाती है।

वहां घर में चौधरी साहब सोच रहे हैं कि ये लड़के किसके घर से आये हैं और चौधरानी जी बैकग्राउंड में कोस रही हैं अपने पति को ” अब हर किसी को दही बड़े खिलने कि क्या जरुरत है, कोई आया नहीं कि अरे दही बड़े खिलाओ बच्चों को।

वो भी एक होली थी, चुराकर मुस्कराहट रंगने वाली आशिकों की होली।

आप सभी को ये गेट टुगेदर वाली save water वाली होली मुबारक।

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I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories atBlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed.

And the theme for A to Z challenge is……

 

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A to Z challenge is purely about challenging yourself : 26 days, 26 alphabets, 26 blog posts and an infinite quantity of mental exercise. So on this theme revival day, i announce my theme , a collection of short stories centered around women to be called as “Facebook Fiction”.

My stories will be centered around a central idea of Life. And to all the women in my stories the message will be loud and clear:

“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Many will be your friends – they’ll hurt you anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember,women make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”

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Come join me in this Amazing April…………Read, Read and share. Let’s spread love.

A to Z Challenge……..What, When, Where &How :-)

Once upon a time before mails, phone or our lovely blogs were invented people sent their messages like

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And when we have the border less world of blogging where a pigeon is not to be trusted with your emotional words, you are still thinking about signing up for A to Z!!

So i am taking the A to Z challenge and i know its quite of a challenge. i have taken resolution of daily blogging with blogchatter and after a great start, i stumbled. Too many things came up, i work for 4-5 projects at a go and blogging took a back seat.

So when i saw the Charming Chandni announcing the A to Z challenge  on her blog, i visited the site http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/p/what-is-blogging-from-to-z.html , read abou it and was tempted. Then it dawned upon me that i have a film writing class in april. But i am still going with it and wish me luck.

That completes What and When part………..Let’s return to Why

  1. I want to take my blog to the next level, i certainly want to.
  2. Blogchatter has given me amazing friends, we share, we encourage, we inspire and we improvise. I expect the same from you A to Z, you better be good.
  3. Sticking to a goal, working towards it and completing it is a high nothing can match (Barring the drinks though 😉
  4. A shared journey, pooling along in blogging would be so much fun.

Isn’t that the awesomest?  Still on the fence about signing up? Look at all the blogs that are participating! 

You know we all bloggers after posting our entries starting from Z be like, make sure you don’t be falter, plan, write and have fun.

Accidents may happen, just remember at least they gave you a reason to smile.

I am staking claim to A to Z Challenge along with Blogchatter community www.theblogchatter.com)

 

लो जी हो गया पोटली बाबा का पोपो

हम चले थे बड़ी दुनिया देखने, लाइन भी एकदम पकड़ कर लाये थे ज़बरदस्त “ शहर-ए-जानां से परे भी कई दुनियाएँ है “, कुछ चलना था, बहुत लिखना था और लो हो गया पोपो। हुआ यह कि कुछ महीनों पहले एक मेल आया कि भाई एक “वर्ल्ड कल्चरल फेस्टिवल” जैसा कुछ हो रहा है, ct8avxauyaakizw-1 (1)आप ब्लॉगिंग करना चाहेंगे क्या?हमने सोचा क्यूँ नहीं करेंगे, देखा श्री श्री जी की ढेर सारी किताबों कि लिस्ट थी पढ़ने के लिये। यही पर बस पोटली वाले बाबा ढेर हो गये, आजकल देवदत्त पटनायक को पढ़ रहे हैं और माइथोलॉजी के पीछे का विज्ञान जान रहे हैं तो हमसे न हो पाता श्री श्री पब्लिकेशन की किताबें पढ़ना।

और यही हो गया लोल, हमें लगा कि कोई योग का कैंप जैसा होगा,ज्ञान वगैरह की बातें होगी जो बोरिंग भी होंगी तो कुछ ख़ास इंटरेस्ट नहीं लिया, मेल में कह दिया कि कुछ व्यस्त चल रहे हैं और बहुत शुक्रिया। कुछ दिन पहले जब यमुना पर हो रहे कंस्ट्रक्शन को देखा तो सोचा “ ये तो जब्बर फेस्टिवल होने वाला है” । हमें भी यमुना से बहुत प्यार है क्यूंकि गाय नहीं गंगा हमारी माता है और यमुना मौसी. तो मौसी का ये हाल देख कर लगता है कि इतने बड़े, बड़े स्टेडियम में क्यूँ नहीं करवाया श्री श्री ने यह कल्चरल फेस्टिवल।

आते हैं अपने फेस्टिवल पर वापस, बड़ा दुःख हुआ, इतने देशों के लोग, इतना नाच गाना, कत्थक से लेकर रॉक तक खूब कल्चर का डंका बज रहा है, सब श्री श्री मग्न हो गये हैं और कोई जबरन योग भी नहीं करवा रहा है।मोदी जी भी पहुँच गये और इनसे चार किताबें नहीं पढ़ी गयी। इतना अच्छा, खुशनुमा आयोजन हुआ था चले थे चच्चा बनने। रोमांटिक वाली बारिश भी हुई, सुनते हैं कि इन्द्रधनुष भी निकला और NGT के मौसाजी बनने के बाद भी सब राजी ख़ुशी हो गया और सब ओर कल्चर भी जगमगा उठा।

तो पोटली बाबा ने खायी एक कसम – बस, ट्रेन और लड़की को चाहे छोड़ देंगे पर किसी फेस्टिवल के लिये मना नहीं करेंगे।दुखी मन से अपनी वाणी को विश्राम देते हैं. आप देखें कुछ तस्वीरे artofliving.org से ली हुई हैं ।

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Dear Maneka Gandhi, Marital rape is not Achhe Din, It does exist

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She was 21 when she was married, he 25. They both were educated and professionals. In an arranged marriage with a man she barely knew, she didn’t think that he would demand sex on the night they got married. He did. She wasn’t ready for it. It didn’t matter.

And then the ordeal of marriage started, almost trivial issues from in laws to dowry, she was beaten up, abused and shouted upon. But the point is sex went uninhibited. It was important for him, he said. He needed it , he demanded, whether she wanted it or not.

She was my friend. She still is my friend. She is in the same marriage.

Who all remember that scene in the movie “Bhaag Milkha Bhaag” where in a refugee camp Milkha singh’s brother in law forces himself upon his wife played brilliantly by Divya Dutta and she afterwards cries near a handpump. Yes my fellow countrymen, that scene showed what a woman goes through when there is no consent involved in sexual act in marriage and this concept very suitably applies  to India.

 

Today Union minister for women and child development Maneka Gandhi said in a written reply, “It is considered that the concept of marital rape, as understood internationally, cannot be suitably applied in the Indian context due to various factors like level of education/ illiteracy, poverty, myriad social customs and values, religious beliefs, mindset of the society to treat the marriage as a sacrament etc.”

Are you serious Maneka Gandhi?

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Let’s see some figures Miss Minister. Domestic violence has emerged as the single-largest crime against women. In 2013, the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) reported over 118,000 domestic violence cases, which made up a third of all crimes against women, far ahead of molestation (70,739) and rape (33,707). The number of reported domestic violence cases also shot up from a mere 50,703 in 2003 before the passage of the Domestic Violence Act of 2005. a 2014 study by the United Nations Population Fund and the International Center for Research on Women. The study found that 60% of men admitted to using violence. The belief that they are entitled to sex even without their partner’s consent is a common motivation, the study found.

These findings tie in with the 2005-06 National Family Health Survey, which found that the commonest source of violence for married women was spouses

Basically Mrs Gandhi, you are saying that it is perfectly ok to rape your wife and when you are a wife your rights take a back door? when a government whose stated intention is to secure women’s safety inside and outside the home, starts talking about culture and tradition to justify a crime.

If there is legal backing for marital rape, women who are victims of sexual assault by their husbands have little hope for justice. The exception in the law needs to be repealed urgently, as recommended by the Justice Verma Committee in 2013. The committee argued that the “relationship between the accused and the complainant is not relevant to the inquiry into whether the complainant consented to the sexual activity.

The problem is not marriage . The problem is not men or husbands. The problem is our ability to tolerate any buulshit in the name of religious beliefs, mindset of society and social customs. We fail to question anything that is challenging to our rotten norms. The most saddening part is government doing the same. The problem behind a man beating up you in morning and forcing upon you in night saying mere liye jaruri hai deals with patriarchy.

Are we ready to challenge it or this concept also does not apply to Indian context?

I want to take my blog to the next level #Blogchatter

I was tagged by Shinjhini who blogs at  ”’https://peddlerofdreams.wordpress.com/  to write this post.

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Few days back i met some amazing bloggers on a twitter platform called #Blogchatter. We took resolutions, we shared tips to improve, we encouraged each other, we wrote on prompts and we became #Blogbuddies.

Coming to blogging i started it more as a personal thing- wanting to write, just write. My celebrity moment came when Paulo Coelho appreciated it and yes it zoomed off.

Where do i want to take my blog from here- obviously higher. Started hindi travel writing at https://potlibabakiblog.wordpress.com/ and want to make it the it thing in hindi blogging. I want to be known as a girl who writes on Highway on my Way. That is the blogging identity i aspire for.

The path is long and does not seem clear but i know that i have miles to go before i sleep.

Blogchatter- We love you for being such a wonderful companion and inspiring us always. The journey is fun with you guys.

I now tag Srikanth at http://bestpedia.in/    to write his take on the topic.

Happy Writing

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