This valentine’s day we are taking our blog love to the next level with Blogchatter where i take on the baton of Blog Love from Deepali , read her at
So it’s valentine’s day round the corner and the world around is filled of love filled notes, cute little hearts and so much sweetness. I write this letter to my blog because i have loved it and it has loved me back with much more than i could ask for.
You have grown up now, from a poorly structured “What a life to be”( Ah, those age of pen names), to turning into travel blogger to now a grown up ready to enter a college with now a self hosted blog. (Oh i talk like your mother already).
Dear Blog i started you at a point of betrayal in my life, my escape point was writing so i moved over from a diary to a blog. And i am so happy that i did it. You gave me my first writing award when it was long back that i had left my writing. You lifted me up in my moments of failures and disappointments. You were always there to listen to my rantings, you were always there to support. You gave me whatever little name i have got. You gave me amazing friends. You became viral and i connected to Paulo Coelho. You got me onboard National Geographic Channel, a tv serial….and the list is long.You gave Pooja Tripathi a name among this world wide web world.
Dear blog, you know what’s my favorite memory. I attended wedding of a friend in Bhopal and when my school friend (the bride) introduced me to her in laws family ( her brother in law ) she said “she is my friend Pooja. she is a doctor”, the brother in law screamed “Are you Pooja Tripathi?” I said yes……
“Oh mam, i am a huge fan of your writings, i love your blogs. “
He made me talk to his girlfriend on phone with a child like glee.
Thank you my blog for giving me my own story worthy moments.
I love you to moon and back. I really do.
Till death do us apart.
Wanderer Wordweaver Woman.
Passing on the baton to Tina, read her wonderful post on:
She has big eyes where you are trapped
Among those brows that seem far apart
Those curls, those greys sneaking out of her
The way you gasp when you come close to her
Her insomniac walk when you look for her at 2 am
Strolling in Balcony humming tune of her favorite song
Her curves camouflage into a sun kissed beach
She smells of your cologne spilled on bedsheet
Her eyes are shut as they always are
Shutting away from a chaos, the mess that is us
Half burnt cigarettes and half-baked thoughts
An incomplete kiss that never connects the dots
Purple highlights falling on her empty back
A tattoo that breaths when you untie that strap
A tornado that engulfs you as a whole
She endured your aching mind, heart and soul
She waited for you to talk of those broken ifs
And make a phoenix out of carcass of unfinished dreams
You love her every night and goes on her waiting
Makes her wonder
Is love only about moaning and making.
So few days back i happened to read an article about “Why deep women struggle to have a perfect relationship”, being one of that kind i could totally relate to that article word by word and even shared it saying “Perfect”, we struggle for a sensible friendships too. Here is the link to article:
So my bestie Prashanth messages me on whatsapp that day (because we share a relationship of conversations, conversations on almost everything that happens around us, from politics to society) and he says “Isn’t it true for the deep men too”. I disagreed,i told him the society does not get the deep women but it thinks that it comes naturally to men and that day he wrote to me on deep men and their struggles. I could not agree more. This letter was so beautifully explained that i took permission for sharing it on blog. This is Prashanth Shrinivas for you and his views on Deep Men and their struggles.
Because there are Deep men too…
Why not? There are men who are deep thinkers. There are men who don’t pleasure only in worldly joys and the general perception that is made of men around right. A famous ad tells ‘Men will be men’. May be!!! But aren’t we talking of the exceptions.
So the first acceptance is that there are deeper men… Not only strong men. (it is a wrong notion fundamentally to see men as strong and women as deep. Either is applicable…)
Why Deep Men Struggle for a Perfect Relationship?
A man who is a deep thinker and has his own perception and thinking of life and a belief system around… It is never easy for this man to find a woman to complement these and reciprocate. Again let me upfront in telling the expectation is not to cater to the man but to his thought process… Life becomes difficult for him and he has to make obvious compromises…
It is hard to find someone to fall in love with his concept of life and thought. He will have settle for something or anything or nothing. What if he doesn’t believe in casual dating or casual sex or anything casual? What if he doesn’t believe in short term relationships? Is it wrong or sinful on his part?
Some reasons …
He is expected to be the macho always.
Why? Can’t he be normal? And being normal can he not be simple. Why can’t he be have deep thoughts and have different concept of life?
He can’t be blunt.
If he is, it is considered rude. He tagged impolite and absurd. His opinions need to match or say a yes to the other half. He speaks his mind and doesn’t give much importance to the general opinion. His answers can make people uncomfortable too. In the world where everyone likes to hear things short and nice, his answers and may seem unusual.
He is tagged God:
Very easily I will you… any of his act of good will and kindness will tagged Gandhian or Godly. He is left wondering what did I do except being right as the situation demanded. He can’t react as he wants but will be forced to conform to those ‘norms’ as I call them.
He has deeper conversations: A deep Man asks questions. He may not put the woman in a situation but may force her to think. Every time you two are together; he can digging deep into the questions about life and everything else which starts from first date itself.
He may never be superficial but someone who resides in deep ideas and memories, and the better half may find it foolish .
He Knows what exactly She Wants: But may not cater to immediately with a reason. May not take her out on shopping every time and may find much joy in long conversations and times with each other. He may refuse to be materialistic and that is fine na….
He may not tell it on face but can have his own perception or understanding of what how and when. He may see anything everything casual as meaningless…
When he Gets Intimate, it’s in extremes: He may not be fearless when he is in love but he will be madly in love. He likes to cross all the lines and but would think a 100 times… and tell oneself… The other one is a woman.
So hold on….
Fearlessness isn’t showing that love on a bed with the force he pushes himself …. It can also be that unconditional care… that unbound care… that unlimited attention… That unquestioned authority he is ready to offer and seek…
If this can seen as cowardice or risk aversion or lack of boldness… What should he do? But is he wrong to think what he thought…
Believe me… He would be hurt in the process… because he will called names; He may loose the person in the process and what worse than losing the person!!! Why shouldn’t he feel suicidal…..
For some reason, if this becomes a hindrance in their successful relationship will you still blame him?
He is fearless and profound: He is never afraid of speaking his mind or sharing his thoughts. But the problem of not being able to visualize a deep man but only a strong man or a macho man is the root of all problems…
His profoundness often scares people. His bluntness makes her intimidating and rough and often takes people away from him. One needs sheer passion, conviction and strength to handle this kind of energy and most around don’t think it is worth it.
He craves for a Deep relation: If he is a thinker and philosopher, then he will prefer having a deep relationship. He prefers a woman with whom he can share her deepest secrets, dreams and expects the same from her.
For him, love means that eternal joy along with opening mentally more than physically. He wants you to tell stories from your past and learn more about your best-kept secrets and fears. Hw ill promise that never will that past comeback as a ghost and promises to stand by.
It is difficult for him to Move On:
His love isn’t simple. He would have made his choice with lot of thought and thinking. For him a loss is losing a world. He may retire to staying single post a break up. We never know…. He will wait; He believe in the power of his love. He is strong and but vulnerable, and he can be on his own but with her thoughts and his dreams.
He looks deep into the eyes… Says I Love you… He means it all….
He has a lot to handle. But wants to go it step by step…. But Love for him is apart all conditionalities…He expects a supporting shoulder.
For he is a deeper person…
Leave a comment if you agree with my friend, if you also wondered are we overdoing this man vs woman issues.
Continuing the decadal trend where public health suffers apathy on part of government both in terms of funding and focus, Healthcare which needed a big bang announcement owing to a very meagre improvement in our indicators, it again bears the brunt of favoring electoral politics upon developmental.Public funding of health sector remains at 1.2 percent of GDP, with Central government spending constituting a third of overall government funds.
Union Budget 2017-18 has relied again on National Health Mission stepping up allocation from Rs. 39,888 crores (revised estimate during 2016-17) to Rs. 48,880 crores, with a nominal rise of 23%.FM Arun Jaitley talks of an ambitious action plan to eliminate Kala-Azar and Filariasis by 2017, Leprosy by 2018, Measles by 2020 and even more ambitious target to eliminate Tuberculosis by 2025. They seem promising but let’s talk from the field. Are they even possible? With country fighting against Multi drug Resistant TB, Poor health infrastructure, Underfunding, bad implementation of Non communicable disease mission and diversion of funds, this plan seems nowhere in sight.
Let’s talk about Universal Health Coverage ,the minimum required resources for this socially relevant scheme should be 1.5-2% of GDP. There we are, already underfunded.With Demonetisation projected as a game changer to plug loopholes, increase fiscal accountability and strengthen the public finance, why does the health sector still has to face under-allocation.
The structural reform in Medical education is a welcome step but it should be associated with a strict monitoring and regulation over MCI witnessing the huge corruption MCI and DCI is involved in.The renaming of Health SubCentres into Wellness Centres continues the present government’s efforts to sell old wine in new bottle.From leakages to a collapsing health infrastructure, from skilled professionals to consumables availability, HSCs do not need a new name, they need a new approach.
Dear Finance Minister, from a person working and observing Public Health from close quarters, this budget is disappointing.We were hopeful that healthcare would be accorded a national priority sector status but it still looks a far fetched dream.
This is the web address of Dr Pooja Tripathi, a doctor turned writer who calls herself as a solo wanderer, weaves out words from life itself and is definitely proud to be a woman. You will see a long list of menu, because she is the same, a cluttered mess with varying writings and varying works. She remembers herself writing poems as far as she can remember first in her school notebooks and then at her blog, fondly writing postcards since a year because she believes she has so much to say to the younger generation.
A bilingual writer she loves Hindi like her own child and the unrefined Hindi of hers has led to पोटली बाबा की, telling stories of the people who never find a place in our stories. A political campaigner in past and a frequent commentator on world affairs, you find it all here. From forming Pathshala, a slum school for kids in Chattisgarh, working against human trafficking with Muskaan in Rajasthan to managing communication campaigns of leading development organisations she believes in the power of pen…err a keyboard in bringing about a change.
If you are wondering about her age, she is three books and two TV shows old. A daddy’s girl first and everything else later she is presently working in Bihar and actively crusading against Child Sexual Abuse with her Bachpan Project.
Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org for talks against CSA or entrepreneurship or just for saying a hi.
अमेरिकी राष्ट्रपति डोनाल्ड ट्रम्प के कार्यकाल के पहले दिन ही अमेरिका ने अपने इतिहास का सबसे बड़ा विरोध देखा, वाशिंगटन डीसी में 5 लाख से भी ज्यादा लोगों ने आज #Women’sMarch के तले एक विरोध मार्च में हिस्सा लिया और नये राष्ट्रपति को कड़े शब्दों में कहा कि समानता और अधिकारों की ये लड़ाई जारी रहेगी और अमेरिका जिन मूल्यों से बना है वे किसी भी प्रशासन को उनसे खिलवाड़ नहीं करने देंगे .
आखिर ये शुरू कहाँ से हुआ – चुनाव के नतीजों के दिन हवाई की एक महिला टेरेसा शुक ट्रम्प के निर्वाचित होने से इतनी निराश थी कि रात १२ बजे उन्होंने फेसबुक पर एक इवेंट पेज बनाया जिसमें उन्होंने डोनाल्ड ट्रम्प की हेट politics के खिलाफ मार्च करने की बात कही, सुबह 5 बजे तक उनके पास 10000 लोगों ने us मार्च में शामिल होने पर सहमती जताई.और दो दिन बाद मेन्हेटन के एक रेस्तरां में #Women’sMarch की तैयारी हो रही थी. तय हुआ कि राष्ट्रपति के शपथ लेने के दुसरे ही दिन यह मार्च होगा यह बताने के लिये कि “आप हमें जितना नीचे गिराएंगे हम उतनी ही बार ऊपर उठेंगे”,#Women’sMarch का कोई नेता नहीं है, पर इसके इतने बड़े स्वरुप के लिये फेसबुक जरुर श्री ले सकता है. यह वाशिंगटन डीसी से होते हुए विश्व के दूसरे हिस्सों में भी उतनी ही बड़ी संख्या में देखा गया और हॉलीवुड के कई सेलेब्रिटी ने न सिर्फ इस मार्च में हिस्सा लिया बल्कि इसे एक एक्टिव राजनीतिक मूवमेंट बनाने की बात भी रखी.
यह कितना बड़ा राजनीतिक वक्तव्य बनेगा यह तो आने वाला वक़्त ही बताएगा पर “pink pussyhats ” पहनी करोड़ों की संख्या में उठी आवाजें चीख में बदल रही हैं, नवनिर्वाचित राष्ट्रपति जितना जल्दी सुन लें उतना अच्छा, आइये ले चलते हैं आपको #Women’sMarch में इन शानदार तस्वीरों से
स्त्रोत – Getty Images, Huffington Post, Buissness Insider, Time
It’s not about Pride and Prejudice……….Sweetheart
DISCLAIMER- this post is written in honor of the women who text me “Hey whatsup! Looking good yaar! Aur bata shaadi kab kar rahi hai, you are crossing the age dear”
Pride and prejudice – we all loved the classic novel and the movie too ( Even the Aishwarya Rai starrer hindi version was kind of ok), the movie which deals with marriage and happily ever after theory. This theory has been fed, forced fed to us since generations.
Frequently these days I come across friends on whats app, we chat, Facebook , growing out of the sunny side of Pride &Prejudice phase and though their beautifully photo shopped pictures may say that the metaphorical happiness is actually there. Being together is a bliss and motherhood a blessing but strangely the same species with whom you hung out as free birds don the cap of a blackmailer from “There would be no one around to take care of you” to counselor you don’t need “At right age , you should be settled”.
This feminism is what we are not able to overcome how many centuries may pass. In India being single by choice is not a choice at all, single may be one who is unmarried, divorced, widowed and let’s not blame any social hierarchy or patriarchal mindset for it ,it’s the females around you and the serial conspiracy to make you one of their own.
This lack of empathy is what throws us away from the superbly written posts on feminism, who the hell other than we can challenge the notion of a perfect body, perfect shape, perfect color, perfect job and perfect age to marry, to bear child…….etc. This mad race of all things perfect is started by a woman and the one cheering you up are your girlfriends who have already finished the race.
Marriage is beautiful, it gives you a companion to share- share everything from white and black,to the gloomy blues to sunny yellow . Children are the ultimate stress buster, their talks, no nonsense love ,their growing up everything is so lively. I love them, my nieces make my life a permanent smiley.I look up to having that companion, to a marriage that is a like chilling out with a buddy to even having a child some day, i just don’t look up to this constant pricking by the happily married double XX chromosomes 24*7.
Recently I talked to a woman whom I admired for her spontaneous personality and the 10 minute talk that followed she gave me advice about marriageable age, how to balance career with marriage and also the month in which I should get married for a decent 9.6 minutes.Women who are on the other side of fence eager to increase their number are the ones who say unpleasant things to the ones who are happily independent, to the ones who are not able to bear child. It is a sad remnant of sexism in its another ugly form when a women’s worth is calculated on the scores of her ability to keep her marriage happy and her ability to bear child at the right age.
I love you girls ,I love your Facebook and Instagram pictures of being “happily married” ,just don’t let your centuries old reflexes of “being perfect” judge other’s lives.
Everyone has its own taste of sugar in the coffee or may be someone likes tea for a change.
I am writing this post for the blogchatter prompt http://www.theblogchatter.com/blogchatter-prompt-why/
She was born with a mole on her feet and someone said
Oh she will be a disagreeing soul and would always tread
Then she wanders in search of memories that are dragged
Drunk on nostalgia and away from the cities that brag
Some call her lost
Some call her strong
She still hums and dances on that 90s song
And beyond the labels that you bestow upon her
She knows she was born to be an outlaw among all who surrender
Her scars go deep where no one can see
And she kisses mountains with a happy glee
Leans out of car screen and drinks dew drops
Walks barefoot on a moonlit beach in a worn out top
She still watches P.S.I love you on saturday nights
And her heart skips a beat when he says “P.S.I love you” a 100th time
So go call her names and scream it loud
The itching feet
The nomadic tribe
The cold solitary soul
The wandering girl who won’t fit in
But let you know that she is happy
Being happy because I am being me.”
I am writing this post for the blogchatter prompt “Because I am happy”. You can read more amazing posts at